About 6 years ago I had a dream where I saw myself getting introcuded to a guy. As I was watching myself from a far I knew who he was, he wasn't a stranger to me. I also knew that he would be my future husband.
Two years later in the fall of 2006 my best friend Meike decided to move to Switzerland which meant that I would need to find a new apartment.
As I was figuring out what to do I felt strongly that I should move abroad. It felt so right that I quit my job about two weeks later and left my boss quite crushed. I told him that I would work until March 2007 so that he had enough time to look for a replacement and take April off with remaining vacation days. At that time I didn't know yet where that journey would take me.
About that time I was a member on an LDS website for young people and had seen the profile of a cute red haired Swede with a Finnish username. I wrote him, he replied, but I didn't. See, I had never been super shy around guys, I was flirty and fun but all of a sudden I was fed up with being proactive, I wanted the guys to "hunt" as my mother had taught me they should do.
My best friend moved, I sold my furniture, saved my earnings and moved in with a friend.
At first I thought about moving to London - I speak English, love London and have friends there - but it didn't feel right. Then, I thought about moving to Helsinki - I speak Finnish, it is half my home country and part of my family lives there - it felt more right than London, but still not 100%.
It was getting winter and my boss told me about a job opportunity in Göteborg, Sweden at the same company I was working for and all of a sudden Sweden felt 100% right, no doubt in my mind.
The second Christmas day I flew to Helsinki to spend some time with my uncle and his family. My cousin Ami invited me to spend a few days at a 4 day event for young LDS people in Lomma, near Lund on the west coast of Sweden and on the way down Ami told me about his friend, a really great guy, who would also be there.
On the first night in Lomma he introduced me to this friend Mikael, who turned out to be the cute red haired guy to whom I had written a few months before and never replied after his answer. The next day I remembered the dream again which I had two years earlier and realized that my dream had became reality and that I met my future husband.
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| Evelina and I in Lomma at a fancy dinner |
In February I flew to Göteborg for my job interview and spent a few days with Mikael and Evelina. From that weekend on we spoke on Skype for hours every night, met a few times and in March Mikael and I started dating. I didn't get that job but moved to Göteborg on April 1st and Mikael proposed 4 weeks later.
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| Our first evening as an official couple |
Since that day we have gone through good and bad but I can honestly say that as time goes by I forget the bad things and remember the good. Every couple receives {good} advice when they get married, so did we. But what I have learned most by experience in the last 4 years is that in a marriage one needs to humble oneself and constantly reflect on ones actions. Thinking about what I can change, how I can be a better wife and partner and not focus on what my husband can/should do better. Focussing on my husbands needs first. And humbling oneself in adjusting to circumstances, not being selfish - stepping out of ones bubble/box and not to forget and realize that this is an ongoing process and will never stop.
I love you Mikael, my "dream come true".
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------This post is the first of a regular blog post series titled "About Love", inspired by Cjanes couples retreat stories. I have asked friends and favourite bloggers to share their love stories, telling us why they got married and what they have learned since then. I hope you will also be inspired.
If you also feel like sharing your story, I'd love to hear from you.
I love your love story! Thanks so much for sharing! :)
ReplyDeleteJa, ich bin auch sehr froh darüber! :)
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Nein, Dusica, das ist kein Zufall - das war "geplant" von "Du weisst schon wem" :)
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Yes Lasse, you are totally right. I thought about when we fly we are instructed to put on our oxygen masks first and then our childrens. If we don't take care of ourselves, how can we then take care of our partners.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your always wise input :)
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Senja, I like the idea of blogging about relationships and generally agree with what you wrote. But let me add a word of caution. We're taught so often that it's important to put your spouse's needs first that sometimes we tend to ignore our own needs in a way that ends up being harmful to us personally and to our relationship. Sometimes the best we can do for our relationship is to be a bit more "selfish".
ReplyDeleteKrass, das alles kann kein Zufall sein! Tolle Geschichte, danke fürs teilen.
ReplyDeleteeine wirklich schöne Geschichte. Und es freut mich, dass ich sie miterleben konnte und mit Dir teilen konnte und noch kann.
ReplyDeleteI love reading peoples love stories, and yours is lovely!
ReplyDeletePS, thank you for commenting on my blog and leading me to yours. I've enjoyed it so far!
oh dear, i just noticed that my de-installing disqus shows all comments with my name :)
ReplyDeleteso glad we became blogfriends!
I absolutely loved reading this story. So sweet and so unique. I visited your blog awhile back ago and didn't know about your connection to Evelina. She and I were each other's last mission companions in Ohio. I love her so much! Lucky you that you get her for a sister. :)
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